One of the daily prompts on WordPress is Complicated.
Why did I pick it? Well, thank you for asking.
I absolutely love this word. I absolutely adore this concept. I absolutely hate it’s common usage and it’s popping up out and around everywhere it shouldn’t be.
Remember this 2009 movie with Meryl Streep? I do. I have it on DVD. I loved it. I watched and re-watched it… It is truly ‘memorably hilarious’.
However, it broaches one very important point: COMPLICATED…
Is it? Is it really? When someone puts up a relationship status ‘complicated’ what do they mean? Are they almost single? Are they still married or in a relationship? Are they lost? Are they… players, cheaters, bastards, etc. (both sexes included). I am inclined to think the latter.
There is a joke that always comes to mind when something straightforward becomes ambiguous at best: You can’t be almost pregnant. You are either pregnant or you are not…
What does it mean? ‘It’s complicated’, how?
- I am separated/divorced but I am still sleeping with my ex-wife, ex-husband
- I have a girlfriend but I am still looking around for better options, offers (my favourite)
- I am single and I’ve met someone amazing but I am still coming back to familiar and comfortable sex with my ex
One response: It is not fair. It is absolutely not fair to the new people in your life. Also, it is unfair to you too.
Some things should never be complicated. Especially when it comes to other people. You are either in a relationship or you are not.
Let me un-complicate the complicated for you: Get out of the relationship. Get a rest. Get a break. Recover. Re-grow. Start a new relationship afresh. World will be grateful to you. Your Karma will be so much lighter for it.